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There are friends who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Prov 18:24 RSV I remember reading this verse in my big Revised Standard Version Bible as a teenager while in boarding school.   I have enjoyed the benefits of having good friends for a really long time so I’ll try and share some stories and home truths with you. I have to say that when love starts to blossom and grow in your head and heart, having good friends will be a great support.   Two experiences stand out in my mind.   The first happened when I was 16.   I had my special circle of friends as most people do.   These were children of my parents’ friends and some high school colleagues.   I was in boarding school during term time so I didn’t get the chance to hang out with the group much.   One summer, one of the guys in the group had told a few of his classmates that I was his girlfriend. I stood out during a competition during my last visi...

I met up recently with some friends who have been following this blog and one of them was particularly disturbed about the trend amongst some singles who find themselves in an undefined relationship with the opposite sex that goes on for ages. She advised me of how she had observed a friend (let’s call her Rose) be with a guy (let’s call him Joseph) for donkey years with nothing defined. Rose was known to all Joseph’s family. Joseph equally loved to spend time with her and they did everything people in a relationship would do without the commitment.   They continued for a number of years with Rose falling more and more in love. One Christmas, Joseph asked if he could spend the time with Rose, she agreed. They went to a family function together. During that function, Joseph met Rose’s childhood friend,(let’s call her Becky). He was totally smitten. It did not take a few months before Rose and Becky had to have a heart to heart talk. Becky knew that her friend had always...

“Not all marriages begin with “ Will you marry me ?”. Some of them begin with “ I don carry belle ” (“I don carry belle” means I have an unplanned pregnancy )-Facebook Post by Godwin Tom-Lawyer Sometime ago, my elder brother put up the above   post on Facebook (seriously almost all his posts are interesting and when I read it ,it initially brought laughter. However after the laughter, I thought about all the people that I have seen in the latter predicament who sadly had taken that path to save face immediately   but actually had found themselves in terrible conditions later on in the long run. While we were growing up, an unwanted pregnancy was almost every mother’s nightmare and mothers generally   did all to ensure that their daughters did not end their secondary education prematurely by becoming pregnant. However after   the secondary school and perhaps university education, the guards of most of our mothers   dropped believing that their...

I was not overly worried about not having a baby immediately after I got married because I had had a revelation where I was pregnant with twins. Two years after marriage I was 40. I asked God for a 40th birthday present- my own baby. I missed my period and excitedly went for a test and it was positive, was quite happy. Some days later (Aunty Flow-the monthly visitor) showed up. I got confused   and then I went for another test and it came out negative. I decided to do a scan. The scan results showed I had ovarian cyst in one of my ovaries. I did the scan in June, my birth month; this was definitely   not the birthday gift I envisaged. I started to read and ask questions about cyst, got a lot of conflicting answers. I decided later to just put my trust in God. The month of August arrived and again  I missed my period  but I didn’t bat an eyelid, I consoled myself with the fact that  if truly I was pregnant, symptoms would show up. That August, I fe...