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There are a lot of things that God has given us the ability to plan and carry out ourselves, but there are some things that God has left to His Sovereignty.  While we are aware that there are times and season for certain things to take place, the exact timing of most events in our lives is something only the Father knows. I had a plan.  I knew when I wanted to get married and when I wanted to have children, taking into account my age and physical fitness.  I got married 4 years after my personal schedule, but I still wanted to wait a few months before starting the process of bringing another human being into the world.  My husband and I disagreed on birth control methods, and well-meaning advice from certain people did not help us at all! People s aid ‘Don’t do family planning! What if you can’t have children afterwards?’ That may apply in some cases – I really don’t know; but that was not the promise I believed God had given me.  So, we took out a few months to be husband an

  This writer has not written to entertain us but it is her sincere prayer that by your reading this. Your marriage or someone of someone you know will become better The story continues ….I thought of different ways I was going to go about it, I could only tell one friend who also happens to be a pastor, she counselled me to be patient. First I wrote him an anonymous mail pretending I was a pastor in the same office complex as the other   woman, let’s call her ‘Cruella ”, I told him he should go back to his wife and stop committing adultery, told him I saw them everyday together and God had ministered to me to call him to order and   to stop breaking the edge.It was a well thought out mail, when he got home that day he was very somber and attentive, I told him I took some money from his pocket to get some things and he said it is not his money but our money, this was something he had never said to me so I thought the mail must have really hit him because he stopped all the chat

“ He is having an affair ” the still small voice whispered in my heart and I stopped in my tracks. Took a good look at my husband and said to myself , no,he won’t do such but there was no mistaking the voice, it was a voice I recognized even in raging moments. He was seated across me in the living room oblivious to the battle going on inside of me. He was chatting with “the other woman”. I knew he was always typing on the phone but I was often on the phone chatting up a storm with friends too. The next question I asked, Lord who is she? I got an immediate answer of who it was. I panicked, should I ask him immediately, of course he will tell me I was crazy it sounded crazy even to me. The other woman is a friend, a church member and VERY MARRIED . I took a deep breath because I was almost hyperventilating. I went into the room to ask God what to do. The Silence was deafening   because my mind was on track I was trying very hard to hear what God has to say but was not hearing a

Dear Reader s, Gracillis continues her story( Mistaken for the other woman 1). This is the concluding part of the post . Basically, her husband was a service provider whom I made contact with severally to supply certain things and my crime was that on her accompanying him to the delivery this particular time, she found out that my address had changed and he knew the new place I resided. I recall coming out to pick the goods  and noticing her face was a bit sour that day but  I concluded  then  that  there was probably  something else on her mind . I tell you it was painful but I did not know the extent of the pain until I left her presence and got on the one hour bus ride home. I climbed   to the upper deck seating and cried all the way home. I got home and thank God for girlfriends, I called one of them who was understanding and provided me with a listening ear. How did I react later on? Not too great at first. I forgave her but I became distant, very careful of married ladi

The instinct of the danger of   the other woman is one that most women can identify with  as far back as their childhood days. When it comes to being mistaken for the other woman, it can come in so many forms, sometimes from strangers who actually are acting in sympathy to the woman of the house and as such have tagged you a traitor  who deserves some form of punishment. A University classmate of mine recounted recently how she went to the bank one day dressed up as usual (to give you a little picture, when we were in school, this babe was always dressed to the kill, on point, you know those girls whose carriage was intimidating as their  hair, dress , bag and shoes was always on point  in addition, she is really naturally light skinned, the kind that could walk into some prayer meetings and cause  some brethren to erroneously start praying against water spirits . She has the kind of complexion that is very prevalent with the  igbo tribe in my country.So she walks into the bank

Bibiana continues her story here. Read the post below which is the start. ...... It wasn’t like there were no ‘toasters’ but none felt right.  There was also to be a period of prayer before taking the plunge because I had established early on that I was not interested in playing field or trying my luck.  It’s got to be marriage minus the extended courtship. God is amazing, He gave me a  husband who believes in family and had had some experiences in his past which led him to believe the greatest thing a man can do is to jealously guard his family.  Having anyone on the side to him is a betrayal he had experienced and  as such has a personal passion for staying true to his wife.  I think it is a good idea to  find out while you are courting what your partner feels about divorce, cheating, polygamy . Some men think it’s no big deal as long as I provide … boys being boys et al. One should also look at the family history – not looking for flaws but trying to assess prevailing attit

I have been reading in the papers about Amir Khan’s wife’s public fall out with his family.  I hope all ends well for them; they all seem to be greatly pained by events however, it will take the grace of God to recover from all that and be better than before relationally. If she was OK with her mother in law, the MIL could have ensured her hubby and kids tow the line – the powerful other woman, I tell you.  It is hard to publicly humiliate another woman and her family like that.  Anyway…. I started praying for ‘my future partner’ since I was about 12 years old.  I am talking practically daily… yeah, right?  I went to a Missionary boarding school for girls and that was a prayer point which came up at every assembly … I know!!!! We had assembly every day of the week, not to mention church service morning and evening, weekly bible studies etc …and I thank God for it …. now.  I took marriage and children to be a given.  It is what happens when you grow up isn’t it?  Backed up by my da