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  We called it a social gathering/nite . It held at least once a term. All the students usually participated on a Saturday night. There was dance, drama, quiz, debates and games. It was our own way of getting together. Every class came Sometimes people were put on the spot.  On one of those days of our social nights out when I was still in a very junior class,   still in my boarding school, a female   senior student was brought out and one of my female   classmates (was also brought out) and then the MC asked my classmate to say something about the senior. I am not too sure she thought about what to say before blurting out “ you are short”.  It is almost two decades later and I can still remember that statement. I recall   telling someone more than a decade ago that her hair looked horrible .I cannot even believe I said something like that but I did   and we all most likely have several variations where we have played the part.  In the first case ,although  it was true the

Attending a boarding school is one of the very life experiences I am eternally grateful that I had the opportunity of having. In short most of my siblings did . One of the great advantages of being a boarder was the fact that you learnt how to live communally, we ate the same food at the same time, woke up , worked and slept at the same time. Unlike the day students who left the show at 2pm, the borders had 24 hours to each other, leaving there to be no room for pretense It meant that there could be drama and drama in the very sense of the word. I clearly remember one day while we were in the dining hall (usually we had   a certain number of tables and there was a mix in the number of students of different classes)   on every table. On that particular day   on my table while we were waiting for food to be served , two classmates of mine(of course, girls) got into a heated argument. One of them was quite vocal and as such was doing most of the talking. We had already pleaded for the

I never wanted to be a nagging wife.   I had heard a lot about how this particular action drove husbands to boiling point and how irritating the whole business was altogether.   So, it was on my prayer list before I got married – Lord help me not to be a nagging wife.   However, since I got married, nagging has taken on a whole new meaning to me.   I thought it was an issue for those who are known to talk too much in general, and since I am usually described as ‘quiet’, I never imagined nagging would be an issue for me.   I am a respected person and when I speak, people listen.   I am careful with my words as I aim to make impact with them, and I am not used to being ignored at all.   I also believe the biblical perspective of the power of the tongue, so putting all that together you can see why nagging should not be a part of my lifestyle. I got married and found myself in situations where my guarded words where not taken seriously.   One of the reasons I got married was to ha

During a counselling session, a man was trying to explain why he had beaten his wife. He said that the words that came out of her mouth moved his hands to her body remotely. Although I do not condone any excuse for wife beating, I can totally relate as the womenfolk   have an uncanny ability to aggravate the menfolk with our words.Nations have gone to war because of what women told their men in secret! I went to a boarding school which meant that we had fixed meal times without having to cook. Almost every term, I had a new plate to use which was mostly breakable to make it easier to wash. I had this favourite plate that my mum always bought for me to use so I was sort of attached to it . It was hollow and also had a floral pattern which was sort of gold in colour . One day after our lunch, I put my plate on my   school bag which was on top of my box on my locker. However when it was siesta time, I was having some trouble sleeping so decided to remove my novel from my school bag.

So, I’ve been trying to hold back on some comments but seeing as the year is gradually drawing to a close, I thought I should throw in one last rant before I get all sober and align myself to greater heights for 2019.   Even as I am typing, my toddler is trying to type with me and can’t understand why I am busy with something else.   I have never desired to be a stay-at-home Wife/Mom.   I have great respect for all who find themselves in this position, and even more for those who willingly choose this occupation, but I realised early in life that this is not my calling…… I started this article and had to come back a couple of days later to continue, and I honestly cannot remember what I was ready to rant about! I had to laugh a little because this is not a new situation to me.   I’ve recently had a few friends get married and engaged and while it is beautiful and wonderful to see new love budding, I can’t help but wonder how prepared these lovely people are.   Its not that