dishusbandmata

As women, we always want to be relational and love to remember special dates, days, occasions and events. Somehow you will agree with me that most women   rather than men are more akin towards the remembrance of birthdays, special anniversaries and   several milestones   and that in itself is not bad. It is only when we begin to   use those dates as a yardstick for life transforming decisions that trouble becomes imminent.   Sometimes some single people seem to want to tie one of the most important decisions in their lives to a gamble of special occasions and numbers. Imagine how foolish   it   would   sound   if   a friend   who   is   waiting   to have   surgery tells   you that   would like a particular surgeon to carry out the operation based on the fact that that surgeon shared the same birthday with her irrespective of whether or not he had the necessary skill or training. But it is something we see these days, a young lady or let's say a matured single lady is ge

If LOVE  was what kept a marriage, then mine would have outshone eternity. I loved my husband and even the devil could testify to that.I had dreams for my home right from the time I was a child. Like almost every woman, I dreamt about the big day and the many happy loving years after that I had read in those girly novels. We met back in my home country and started a relationship which did not materialize, shortly after which he left the country. I also  left for overseas and renewed contact. I had the right legal papers and before I knew it, we were headed to the altar. I became a Christian quite early in life and came into my marriage with all my virtues, believing that bringing my best and keeping myself is one thing that will make any man love and respect me. I do not know what to say but it seemed that my husband did not appreciate the fact that I was a “V” but we will leave that story for another time.  I started experiencing abuse early in the marriage but did not recogniz

In the course of waiting on the Lord, a lot of things happened that made me wonder why people, including Christians act or say the things they do. Being a matured single doesn’t make you any different from the seemingly young single girl out there.Sadly people think the pressure of age is enough reason for a matured single lady to target another woman's husband   or for crazy unsolicited  advice to be offered by so called well meaning people all in the bid to get her married. Some 13 years ago, some of us in  my church were looking to invest in Agriculture so we were going to look at some available land for farming. We were to assemble in a much older brother’s place but when we arrived he was dressing up, he came out and introduced us to his wife.Before then another brother had asked if she was going with us and she said a capital NO apparently she didn’t have any interest. When it was my turn to be introduced  since most of us were meeting her for the first time, he said “

It is one of those things I came across as I was growing up.Somewhere in the longing of the heart of every woman (maybe I should say most women) is the desire for that special somebody who would treat us like no other.The treatment we have always imagined that we deserve. Men being hunters seem to know how to play the cards well and would do almost anything to make the lady they are interested in feel special.And sincerely sometimes I wish it just happens like that as it would save us all from many needless sorrows.Boy meets girl, fancies her and treats her well in a special way.She responds to him and eventually they become special to each other. However sometimes this is not what happens. Rather some ladies try.to use special event or dates or even spiritual gatherings to find and determine the suitability. Of the intended. I will be sharing more on this int my  next post over the weekend Gracillis I

It is one of those things I came across as I was growing up.Somewhere in the longing of the heart of every woman (maybe I should say most women) is the desire for that special somebody who would treat us like no other.The treatment we have always imagined that we deserve. Men being hunters seem to know how to play the cards well and would do almost anything to make the lady they are interested in feel special.And sincerely sometimes I wish it just happens like that as it would save us all from many needless sorrows.Boy meets girl, fancies her and treats her well in a special way.She responds to him and eventually they become special to each other. However sometimes this is not what happens. Rather some ladies try.to use special event or dates or even spiritual gatherings to find and determine the suitability. Of the intended. I will be sharing more on this in my  next post over the weekend Love U loads, Gracillis

Any driver cutting through a red light would be deemed as crazy and a recipe for disaster. However sometimes in life, several people ignore the red light and drive through in a bid to become married only to be plunged into needless sorrow. Sadly,no sooner than they enter begin to consider the possibility of divorce. I remember a very close friend of mine recounting to me an experience of a friend of hers. Lets call her friend “ Simi ” .My friend introduced Simi to another friend and brother who we will call Bro Spiricoco as he is a Pastor and very much into active ministry. They had been chatting for a while and Simi was beginning to consider and pray. She added fasting to it ( dishusbandmata needs fasting o ) and  during one of those periods of fasting ,the brother informed her that he would visit  on his way back from a ministration in a neighbouring town close to her. She prepared for his visit, you know what we normally do and somehow, he arrived at night. She happened to