Red Light –Potiphar’s wife


Any driver cutting through a red light would be deemed as crazy and a recipe for disaster. However sometimes in life, several people ignore the red light and drive through in a bid to become married only to be plunged into needless sorrow. Sadly,no sooner than they enter begin to consider the possibility of divorce.
I remember a very close friend of mine recounting to me an experience of a friend of hers. Lets call her friend “Simi” .My friend introduced Simi to another friend and brother who we will call Bro Spiricoco as he is a Pastor and very much into active ministry. They had been chatting for a while and Simi was beginning to consider and pray. She added fasting to it (dishusbandmata needs fasting o) and  during one of those periods of fasting ,the brother informed her that he would visit  on his way back from a ministration in a neighbouring town close to her.

She prepared for his visit, you know what we normally do and somehow, he arrived at night. She happened to be living in a 2 bedroom house and welcomed him. After the usual courtesies, food and gist, it was time to retire. However, brother Spiricoco  had another agenda as he tried to talk Simi  to knowing her more intimately. Well you know this is not acceptable and if anyone should know that, it should be the Pastor. She refused and he continued to persist, even adding scriptures of grace and how God would forgive them later. She tried to reason with him especially pointing out that if they slept together, then a very vital part of the relationship which is trust would be broken. If for just one night away from home for ministration, he could not keep himself ,what would happen to their marriage if he leaves for ministration for even a weekend?, She was not sure her heart would be able to deal with the anxiety of what probably would be happening whether or not anything was.

He brought another angle of reasoning that everyone does this and she cannot even be sure that my friend who introduced them (who is married) followed the Biblical standards. Well she told him to the best of her knowledge, her friend did marry as a virgin on her wedding day and even if she did not, she was not her standard. She had the Word as her standard.

He persisted O, I tell you (there are some relatives of Potiphar’s wife out there) .She felt that she could drop a joker and the whole thing would end. So she told him that there was a big problem. Even if she was going to go ahead, it would not be possible on this occasion as she did not have any means of protection. Well, our brother Spiricoco was not intimidated and smiled at her apparent lack of preparedness. He had all the bases covered. He already came with condoms! My goodness, she was dazed and told him categorically “NO” not happening .showed him his room to sleep and went into hers and locked the door. When it was daybreak, she described the way out to the park and he left. He never returned and never called back. That was about five years ago. She is married now, to another person.

Imagine, if she had compromised. She would have found herself in a cycle of pre-marital sex and honestly, in a relationship that would go nowhere as sex has a way of clouding one’s reasoning. Don’t let anybody’s title fool you.If anyone is asking you to compromise, know it is a red light and  the good news is that there are some other sisters (and brothers)there who are holding on to the standards of God’s word(by his grace).They are Joseph’s siblings  who are on the way to the palace.

Love 2 write,
 Always,
Gracillis.

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