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Here’s a conversation between old classmates from a sitcom I watched a few years ago. “You stole my b oyfriend! You stole the life I could have had! I had a good thing going and you just came in, offering what I couldn’t give him, and you took him away from me!!!” “Yes, I did, and I took the AIDS he should have given to you as well!!!”   And then there was silence. Hindsight is an amazing gift.   That moment when you realise how close you came to making a huge mess of things – priceless. In some cases, you might even want to thank the person who took the bullet for you.   I spend some of my leisure time watching sitcoms, and it was on one such occasion that I heard the phrase ‘…the one who got away’. I thought about those words when the film ended and laughed as I recalled two scenarios from my past where that phrase played out. The first was with my first ‘proper’ relationship. As a teenager, I used to beg God in my prayers for the privilege of just one boyfriend wh

Learning to let go comes to us all as we grow older.   The better you are at letting go the more at peace you will be with yourself and the more time you will have to yourself for your self to figure out the person you need to be and to appreciate the people God brings your way who genuinely want to walk this way called life with you. Some relationships are meant to be lifelong like the relationship between husband and wife, children and parents, siblings etc our family ties.   Those relationships are worth fighting for, keep on keeping on. as long as it depends on you .   The thing with relationships however is that it doesn’t always depend on you - the other party counts too. The relationships we have with our friends somewhat differ. With friendships, some are lifelong, and some are brief.   Knowing the difference and sometimes letting go can add value to your life where   the friendship is not reciprocated.   Many things lead to   the distance/demise of friendship

How do you know when it is time to “let it go”? We experience various scenarios when it comes to relationship dynamics, which can get a little bit confusing. I mean being on our own can be complicated at best, then we add other people to the mix and that just creates a whole lot of drama! Now, I’ve heard people say that breakups usually happen for one of three reasons. Number one, you find yourself in a happy relationship and the other person just decides it’s over. Number two, you find yourself in a toxic relationship and you just have to leave. And finally number three, it just isn’t the right time and you both decide to leave. Now regardless of the reason, the experience in itself is painful to go through. When we think about the effort and time and energy that we put into our relationships that fail, it can get discouraging pretty quickly. I can remember clearly my one and only experience going through a breakup. I was older than him, but I thought he was a great danc

Dear Amrita, Happy Birthday to you – future me!!! Yep it’s a brand-new year for you and I hope you have had a lot of excitement in the past 10 years. Yes, this is Amrita from ten years ago.     What’s the world like these days?   I hope it is not too weird reading from your past self.   I’m writing down some goals for this year and the next ten years, so I wanted to have something to remind me of what I’ve written.   Let me remind you about where things stand for me at present.   I had a really good education and I completed my Masters over 5years ago (that is 15years to you), but I am currently not using my degrees.   I’ve picked up a few other qualifications from free and paid courses; however, my main occupation right now is parenting; and while this is a very noble and important investment, it is not yielding any immediate financial rewards.  Remember how in our single days we dreamt about building a financial empire? The idea was to do so with Mr Right, right?   W