The "Married "other woman! 2
This writer has
not written to entertain us but it is her sincere prayer that by your reading
this. Your marriage or someone of someone you know will become better The story
continues
….I thought of different ways I was
going to go about it, I could only tell one friend who also happens to be a
pastor, she counselled me to be patient.
First I wrote him an anonymous mail
pretending I was a pastor in the same office complex as the other woman, let’s call her ‘Cruella”, I told him he should go back to his
wife and stop committing adultery, told him I saw them everyday together and
God had ministered to me to call him to order and to stop breaking the edge.It was a well
thought out mail, when he got home that day he was very somber and attentive, I
told him I took some money from his pocket to get some things and he said it is
not his money but our money, this was something he had never said to me so I
thought the mail must have really hit him because he stopped all the chatting
and kept away from her for 2 days and then I decided to send Cruella a mail 2 days
later– mistake,
I didn’t think the mail through and I used
some phrases that I used at home a lot. When he got home that day he wasn’t
somber but mad and told me to tell the agent that was spying on him he/she had
got nothing on him, I pretended I didn’t understand what he was saying and he
got confused because he thought there was no way under heaven I would have
found out about them so he thought someone saw him with her and came to tell me
so he was saying things like “you better not go and fool
yourself because she has a beautiful marriage, don’t go and embarrass yourself
before her husband and accuse a married woman falsely because of what someone
told you.” I still pretended I was clueless, at a point he was confused
but those phrases proved I knew something about the anonymous mail. I kept
telling him to tell me the content of the said mail so I can decipher the
parable he was speaking but he kept insisting I should ask my agent to tell me.
He went back to spending time chatting
on Whatapp and Viber. After about one week, one particular night he was at it again
saying stuffs, something in me snapped, I couldn’t pretend anymore I and I said to him” really let see how her so called
beautiful marriage will stand when he husband finds out she is cheating on him”,
he started laughing at me saying I must be mad to think he slept with her- a married
woman. I told him I had my evidence to
prove my point. He just ignored me and went to sleep he thought I was bluffing
and all I had was hearsay.
It was such a painful night,here was I
unable to sleep while the accused was snoring. I just picked his phone and
called this other married woman,Cruella. This was past 11pm
at night and she answered like she was expecting the call and I told her you are dead meat as early as 5am tomorrow morning am coming to
your house to tell you husband what you have been up to. By this time tomorrow
you will be a single mum and she was like what are you talking
about? I told her, you will know tomorrow.
Two minutes later my sister inlaw called and
said ‘I just had a bad dream about you in fact I have been
having the same dream severally blab la
bla” I was so enraged that I started telling her everything and she
was like, “no, Cruella can never do such a thing I know her well
she is a respectable woman and I then replied her saying ,” really oh if she is respectable why will my husband ask if the baby
she is carrying is his? Why would they go to work together, spend the day
together and return together? Why would she send a message every morning and
night to him? I reaffirmed my
stance by letting her know about all the
evidence I had gathered and she said she was going to have a serious talk with
both of them and tell Cruella
to stay on her lane and also will tell her to call me and beg me.
The following morning Cruella called me and
started swearing by God’s name she never slept with my husband and I told her,you guys were already on the path to consummate the emotional affair.
when my husband asked you if you were carrying his child if you had no
intention of sleeping with him you would have given him a stern warning not to
joke in such ungodly manner. I also reminded her how they were chatting and she said it
was raining and he should go in and have
sex with me, that sex is usually great when it rains and he said he will like
both of them to first practice it because she was only theorizing it. I asked
her what my husband meant when he said they were less than a couple but more
than friends? I told her ,am sure your husband will agree with him that
consummating the affair was a matter of time. I asked her what her business was
in asking my husband what I cooked in my home everyday.
She
was shocked to her marrows to think what she thought was for his eyes only was not totally secret I
told her I had it copied in all my
phones, she started pleading that It was because he told her we were having
issues and she was only trying to advise him and he ended coming over to her
place everyday because his office is close by.She admitted that they got close but no sex happened and she had
no intention of sleeping with him. She started praying God will keep my home
blab la.
Her saving grace was that my sister in law had called very early that
morning to tell me not to go to her home because she was going to sort things
out. I was really mad because my hands were kind of tied now.I had another
woman begging me and although she had done wrong, was there going to be any
good in telling her husband and causing trouble in her home also ? I decided I
was going to take it out on my husband.
He still called my bluff that how can I
accuse him of having an affair when he had not slept with her and that there is nothing like emotional affair, He added insult to injury by saying I was only
showing my insecurity. I got really mad
and allowed my tongue to go loose.I am
not proud of all I said but gave him the insult of his life.
After that episode, he put a password on his phone so I couldn’t access it any further. His sister kept calling me
every day reiterating that tCruella and my husband were not having an affair- in all their
illiterates minds sex = affair. No sex no affairs so I was like making a
mountain out of a molehill. When my husband saw his sister was now involved and
because I respect her he thought the worst was over.
When I realized he was still visiting
her and I told myself I will throw caution to the wind and go and tell her
husband and still crash her marriage. So I decided I was going to go to her
office and embarrass her but it wasn’t in me to create a scene no matter what.
I was tormented with what to do then one day I called her and gave her some
friendly advice, I told her I have nothing to lose but she was going to be the
loser because when I will after her I will come hard, I told her to stay away
from my husband she should not be fooled by his sister or any assurance on his
side that with his sister involved I cannot do anything, I sent her copies of
their conversation copied on my phone, that was when she knew she was in deep
shit, all along they didn’t believe I had it copied on my phone I told her I
wiould send it to her group leader in church even post it on her face book page
let see how she wriggle out of it. I told her that the defense of not to have
slept together will not hold water when the whole world sees your secret
correspondence. She made a vow asking God to witness that
she will cut off every form of communication with him. I should please delete
the messages from my phone.
The following day my husband came from
work with tears in his voice he asked me what I told her that made her drive
him away from her office like a mad dog, she didn’t even allow him to get close. He said he had never been embarrassed in his whole
life. I just hissed.
When I saw she completely cut him off, I
then started tormenting him at home oh the things I said to him. I taunted him
on how he meant nothing to her, he was a fool to have put his own marriage on
the line, when all he meant to her was an emotional buffer to be used when
convenient and dumped at any point, I told him she only toyed with his emotions
and he got carried away. I threatened him I was going to send the
correspondence to leaders in the church so they will know what a hypocrite he
was. I asked him what achievement he recorded in the eight months of the affair,
he had absolutely nothing to show for it, his business at that was at an
all-time low but he was so consumed in the affair he never did anything
positive to turn it around. I asked him if she truly was a fantastic person
like he always told her in their chat, how will a grown ass man with a family
at home be visiting her office every day from dawn to dusk, never asking him of
how he will cater for his home, whereas her own husband earns a 6 figures
salary monthly. I told him he was busy
watering another man’s garden providing emotional buffer. Time and space will
not permit to tell all that happened.
After two months I visited Cruella’s
office, when she saw me at a distance she quickly went in the office, I got in
and she offered me a seat and a drink which I took. I noticed she had lost so much
weight and she was reading Battle
field of the mind by Joyce Meyer and she had this big multi translation
Bible on the table. She started telling me how she had driven my husband from
her shop after we had that conversation, how she had been fasting day and night
begging God to touch my heart so as not tell her husband. How every day is a
torment to her because she asks herself is it today my world will come crashing
down and after awhile she was forced to tell her husband. I asked her what she
told her husband because if she had told
her husband the whole truth, she won’t still be in his house.
She answered that she only told him that
because my husband’s office is close to hers and he pops in every now and then
and that I am now accusing them of being
too close. How she has seen the error of her ways and began to swear that she
has not set eyes on my husband since that day, she had deleted his number from
her phone and he had even stopped calling when she stopped picking his calls. She
didn’t even know what got over her and she got carriedaway, she admitted the
closeness was ungodly. I asked her point blank if she ever think about sleeping
with my husband, she couldn’t answer. I spent like 2 hours in her office I told
her some home truth based on their correspondence. I showed her a list of names
of her in-laws I had gotten from her husband and her Facebook page of people I
will send their correspondence to if I ever smell her near my husband, She
almost died when she saw the names. She begged not to do that because she had
made a vow before God not to have anything to do with my husband ever again,
begged me to delete them, I told her people easily forget vows so I won’t
delete because that is my insurance.
My husband was still acting up still
insisting they were only friends and nothing more until the day after a bitter
quarrel one night, I packed my things and told him I was sick of the marriage
but two things I won’t fail to do was to destroy cruella’s marriage and tell
the whole church he was a fraud. By morning he had locked the door and hidden
the keys. I woke him up to open the door for me to leave that was when he
started pleading saying he had cut off every form of communication from her but
I told him it was Cruella who had cut off from him. Truth be told I got the
reaction I wanted ,I had no intention of leaving I was just bluffing.
Truly ,truly,
Jedidah
Ps:It’s been some years now, I must confess it still hurts, not
with the attending bitterness, anger and all but it sure still hurts. A lot of
things have improved in our marriage, God used that incidence for my good
because the thought that he messed up big time turned my husband to a better
man. For a long time I still taunted him when we have serious issues and I
always the affair as an ace but God is helping me to not to anymore. I have
forgiven but I am still learning to
forget.
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