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I noticed sometime ago that I was added to a group on Facebook. You know how suddenly you discover you are in some groups that one random person added you to  and for months I never really checked them out until sometime last week. It is supposed to be a ladies group that offers support  and I came about the following written by someone. "I have dated my boyfriend for 5 years now but he has not proposed. When he got a better job, I reminded him about us but he said I should give him time that he has plans ,he had plans 6 months had gone and we are still living together and splitting the house rent.I insisted on him taking the next step or I leave the relationship.,but he pleaded with me to buy myself the engagement ring while he refund me at the end of the month.I asked him if he will propose if I buy the ring and he said yes/I finally bought myself a ring and gave him which he did the drama and proposed and I accepted ,but when I told him the price of the ring which #190...

Church romance, an interesting concept, or is it?   Depending on what church you go to, or what part of the world you come from, or what department your serve in (yep, its true), your experiences may differ.   Yes, relationships can start in the church setting, and to be fair most of our parents would prefer us to meet Miss Perfect and Mr Right, in church.   However, the whole world got that memo; so once a person feels ready to settle down and tie the knot – Church is the place to be. I remember a guy who turned up in my local church once. He quickly joined the choir and mehn did he have a voice! He was a doctor and he was looking for ‘the One’.   Once people felt sure of his foundation, he received some serious attention.   I was twenty at the time and he was thirty, but I still wanted him to look my way.   He quickly caught my drift and gently put me in my place. That hurt, but I moved on swiftly. The church however had other ideas. Moms gave him...

I met my husband at my church convention, one of the biggest ministries in Africa. We served in the same unit and got talking. We became friends and later o,n he proposed. I was 36 years and I was already anxious because all my five sisters got married in their mid-twenties, the one considered to have gotten married late was 29 and it was because she was studying for her masters. My husband was into dry cleaning business and after a while, the business packed up. I wasn’t deterred, I was confident things would work, I had my plans laid out. I was running a side business because where I worked closed shop. My family were happy for me and because of our financial status, they decided to forgo a lot of cultural demands to help us. I paid for my mother in-law trip to Lagos, it was her first time in Lagos. The clothes she wore on our engagement and wedding ceremonies were all provided by myself. My hubby did not contribute a dime to our wedding, I paid for everything because God r...

I recently started a new job and am still in the process of knowing everybody. It is almost two weeks now but I still seem to be meeting new people daily. Just last week ,I met yet another new   colleague and we began chatting. He told me that he is married and his wife and himself were not planning on having children till after her university studies. Like he put it, then they would have children . I did not want to push the conversation further but it reminded me of the fact that many times we have our lives planned out .When we would finish from the University, get a job, get married, have children, reach the peak of our career etc however reality .com   teaches us that things do not always go as planned. Sometimes we fail examinations, lose a job, get married and struggle with child bearing, not get married or even get married and find ourselves single again due to a divorce, separation, death and the list can go on and on, most times due to circumstances beyond our...