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Answer the Call I was listening to a message online by Bishop TD Jakes the other day, and at the end of it I thought to myself, “I’m going to give you such a big hug when we meet in heaven, because you have helped me through a lot of rough patches!”.   It seemed like a weird thought to pop into my head but then I started to think of how many people regard this special instrument of God as a Mentor to them.   This month is all about Mentoring and I fully agree with a statement last week’s article which said “…it takes a whole village to raise a child.”   While this might make more sense to those who had the privilege of being raised in the great continent of Africa, it is a statement that embodies a deep truth – Parents can’t do the job alone.   Here is my experience of being Mentee and Mentor. I didn’t choose any of the people I call Mentors today.   Some forced themselves on me, some just came out of an evolved relationship, some were chosen by God i.e....

“You need a mentor!” “What do you mean you haven’t thought about it yet?” “You know your life won’t be the same if you have a mentor right?” These are some of the many things I have heard in relation to having/needing a mentor. And every time it has been brought up, it always seemed to get my hackles up. I can’t explain it, it just did. I mean why do I need to tell someone my entire life story and wait for them to tell me their biased opinions on what would work best for me? It just didn’t make any sense to me you know. For the past 8 years now, this idea of having a mentor has been a real issue for me. Now I’m sure you can guess from my first paragraph; but let me lay it out for you, I am not the most open person going. There! I’ve said it out loud so you basically know my secret… I mean, I wont willingly dish out information about the going ons in my life unless I’m specifically asked and I know I can’t get away with not saying something. But life happens, and I find my...

I was reading last week's post, and wondering how we are plagued with several counsels without us formally going for counsel. I will call them "Little whispers". There are several of them that we hear and we have somehow imbibed over the years .I will start with one that I cannot say exactly when I heard it but I have heard it long enough and you most probably have. Our mothers seemed to have used it to their advantage and an ancient Queen used it to save her people from extinction (you can check the story of Queen Esther ). So this first whisper is "  the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" . Well that may automatically remove some people who do not like to cook but perhaps there are several substitutes to that. You don't have to be the one to cook, it just says you should work hard at providing the food although not necessarily bringing the funds for the food ! While I agree with this statement to an extent, my issue with it is  if t...

So it was a competition ‘the worlds strongest man’.  The guys were flexing their muscles and doing their thing when this man came up.  He had the muscles and the mindset.  He was going to lift up this weight no matter what and he gave it all he had until snap!! His bone gave way!!  This was a physically impossible task for him!!  This is the way a pastor described Depression in one of his messages.  A stress that causes your mind to snap!!  When it is just more than your mind can handle. Sometimes your partner’s mind cannot also handle and there may be a need of some outside influence. However marriage can be a secretive place - this is not necessarily a bad thing.  Without trying to, we could find that we   are keeping everything to ourselves; good or bad - especially bad. The fact that marriage is a secretive place is why it can be very difficult to reach out for help until its breakdown is almost irreversible.  Many couples wait...