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Following last week's post,I have gotten messages of how people felt connected and today,I will like to feature something I received sometime ago which also adds to last week's message and I hope this helps somebody out there. Not everybody wants to stay single. Not everybody wants to get married. Not everybody wants to remain married. However due to circumstances of life, personal, family, societal, religious  and other reasons: Persons may not be able to get married, despite their personal preferences. Persons who would rather be single, get into marriage. Persons remain in loveless and/or abusive marriages (perhaps to maintain a facade) despite their best interests. I got married at 39 years, 5 months and 4 days. Prior to that time, I had a friend who would plague my every Facebook post with marriage references, if I posted that the sun was shining, he would comment that it would have shone better/brighter if I was married. No post was immune to his invasion...

Most of us love to attend weddings , the excitement and joy   in the air is contagious and may sometimes culminate in tears.The thought of getting married is a dream in the hearts of almost every lady and sometimes when this desire is not met ,it can be quite difficult to come in terms with. Worse still is the expectation of society for this to happen thus mounting untold pressure leading to some marriages which should never have been contracted and that in itself is trouble.  Y Several years ago, when my best friend wasn’t married, she had a friend (whom we will call Remi for anonymity) who was still waiting to have a child after 8 years of marriage.With every passing year, Remi was becoming more distressed but the fullness of the gravity of her situation dawned on my friend during a conversation while she was recounting to Remi   about how overwhelming   it was coping with the pressure at home to get ma...

For those of us who know about fairy tales (Disney), we know that our heroes and heroines had to face some odds before they could get their ‘happily ever after’. We know about sleeping beauty and her little problem with a sleeping curse. It’s bad enough that Cinderella has a wicked stepmother and she just can’t catch a break, she looses her glass slipper just as she finds her prince charming! Then there’s Beauty and the Beast where her prince has animated furniture to say the least!! The odds really were against them, but they beat those odds. Now in real life, real couples have real obstacles they face that are against their marriages or them getting married. Some of these are often from outside of the couple. Like family not seeing eye to eye on certain things, or lack of good examples of strong marriages. But sometimes, the brunt of the huddles towards marriage can come from the couple themselves. Yes, I know. No one wants to think that they’re the problem. But you hear cas...

Meeting someone you love is priceless.   The whole process of falling in love is lovely.   Your heart beats a little faster when you are around this person and you think ‘God, I can’t believe you created someone like this’ - He fits the bill perfectly.   When He gives you that someone with whom you genuinely enjoy living life together with.   If you are like me then the sweet feelings reach a crescendo with marriage preparations and then it’s your big day and you tie the knot.   The first few years are usually blissful!   If you start out without any abnormal negative outside influence, you generally think nothing/little of each other’s shortcomings.   You see yourself as ‘the solution – the help meet’. People have said in Nigeria that when you are preparing for you wedding, you face challenges.   Specifically because you are getting married it seems.   Ladies I have spoken to say they are confused by the amount of interest they recei...