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Classifying things into groups is a well   known method for enhancing memorization and     this can be extended to people including our in-laws. The word “in-law” can instantly produce many memories depending on the various types. While I would not say that we are to be held responsible for their actions, some of their behavior to us are actually reactions to our words and actions. Using the title above, the “good” in-laws as those who have thankfully accepted you as family with no obvious separation between you and the other family members. What is good for the goose is good for the gander and as such ,you are not treated with segregationist preference. Laughing at their jokes is as natural as breathing air, you can be yourself. For   the bad, you are always reminded that you are not one of them. This may be done subtly or out rightly depending on their barometer of nastiness. Almost everything you do is not good enough, from academic to cooking skills and even things you

I’ve thought of myself in many different scenarios over my few years on earth, but there are still some scenes I just can’t picture myself in.   For example, I watched a documentary some weeks back which followed the stories of two women who didn’t know they were pregnant until they were sent to the delivery suite! And one of them had had a child previously!!! It looked impossible; how would you not know that you were pregnant for over 36 weeks? I remember one of the ladies saying she never dreamt something like this would happen to her, so it could happen to anyone – I instantly replied my television with a loud “Never!” However, it got me thinking.   There were probably a few things I imagined I would be and do by my thirties which I am yet to accomplish, and I often ask   “would my teenage self be happy with the current me?”    Okay let’s talk about looks .   You have probably heard the phrase “…letting yourself go…”?   It’s a kind-er way of saying a person has put on weight

  Earlier this year I contemplated doing something I said I would never do. In fact, this thing has been my one constant whenever I think about relationships for as long as I can remember. Now before I expose myself, I think a little context is required. There are two things I have always put my feet down about when it comes to relationships. First, not going back to an ex after breaking up. I just believe once it ends, it ends. That’s it. No point in trying to drag something on longer than it needs to be. And second, taking control of the situation to get what I want (if it’s within my power). I mean why wait if it’s something I can make happen for myself? I think these two things have served me well so far, I mean the second one was the power force behind my last relationship. I remember meeting him at a friends’ birthday party and we hit it off immediately. We’ll call him Dave. I really liked Dave but I was sort of speaking to someone else at that time. We spoke constantly

Here we are , at the last quarter of the year and if you are like me, some of my thoughts are where did the year got. It wasnt long I was buying Christmas cards in January against a December which seemed so far away then . Getting into the last segment of the year has been quite overwhelming as one looks at the challenges encountered in the previous three quarters, If there was anything that made the last quarter quite memorable was the fact that it was a time of some sober  reflections as the news of the departure of some people reached our ears.  One of my friends actually lost both parents within weeks of burying one of them and the list is endless about some of the unnecessary deaths that have taken loved ones away  and while we cannot always know why these things happen, i strengthens my resolve for the day.  Having good relationship   with others is a function of the kind of relationship you have with yourself and if there is one thing I have always tried to adv