Unusual List

One of the vague phrases that has been flying around for weeks is “I can’t believe it is December already” . I am sometimes at a loss of what people really mean when they say this. Did the days just  fly or is it a matter of regret over the year or a sigh of resignation of hope?It seems most times the latter is the case.

For some the year went too quickly, for others, they really wished it had turned out differently while for yet another group, there actually has been no change and  irrespective of the group you belong to ,as the year begins to wind down we all are faced with the temptation of taking stock. This in itself is not a bad thing to do, especially in the last month.

Usually most Decembers, or perhaps right from the last few weeks of November, most write ups automatically go into the “Thanksgiving mode” where everyone is encouraged to adopt the attitude. “Be grateful”. “Be Thankful,you  made it” .These phrases usually evoke several reactions ranging from an enthusiastic compliance to a too familiar approach and  unfortunately but honestly, resentment. Sometimes we may really find ourselves resenting all these end of the year talk concerning Thanksgiving. After all, there is hardly anything that may have moved off our wish or changed in our relationships  and the need to be grateful is something  we have delegated  only to those people whose stories almost  brought out the little green eyed monster in us .


So perhaps while taking stock, maybe we should do it a little differently and  have a list of complaints. What are those things you are not happy about? The things you looked up with hope would happen this year and it seems they have still not happened. Begin to write them one by one and if perhaps you need some starters or reminders, let us look at your home situation, what of your job? In the area of health for yourself or loved ones, did you lose someone this year  due to ill health or more annoying a terrorist bomb attack or perhaps  to those insane people who go shooting randomly or did your marriage break down this year in spite of all you put in?Did your stocks diminish in size greatly and rather than being an investment have left you in great debt? Or perhaps, did you lose all your property to fire or the several hurricanes of this year and unfortunately as an illegal migrant, you cannot claim anything or let the government know of your misfortune.

Maybe this year also, you have had to withdraw your children from school due to finances and your car went off the road. I dare say your list is beginning to form now and you should take out time to write it to the tiniest details. Surely, there is no need to be thankful.

Let me indulge you to look at that your list of complaints again, several people who have what you are perhaps asking for are no longer here and while some of them are , they are not even in the right frame of mind or health to enjoy them. But you are here today, reading this article from your favourite blog. To be honest, we at “dishusbandmata” are concerned about relationships and have long discovered that   gratitude is all time seasoning  for good relationships.Before you stop reading, take a little time to write down things that happened  or did not happen to you this year that you can be grateful for. You can also add attributes in your loved ones that brought a smile to your face this year. If you are looking for a place to start and would perhaps love this to be a whole month exercise, then I encourage you to visit a site by one of my friends who gives us reasons every day in December to be grateful for. http://www.adayingodswill.com/?p=5484


 Can’t still find any reasons to be grateful, then be grateful for the entire team at “Dishusbandmata” who have tirelessly ensured that every Friday in this year, there has been something to read to help  relationships. It has been quite  a challenging year(I will talk about it later), but for now, I am taking stock while writing my list in an attitude of gratitude.

Remaining  Thankful.,
Gracillis.

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1.307 mass gun shootings in the US in 2017
http://uk.businessinsider.com/how-many-mass-shootings-in-america-las-vegas-shooting-2017-10
2. 9 disasters that took place this year https://reliefweb.int/disasters
3. terrorist attacks this year against the west http://www.foxnews.com/world/2017/11/01/timeline-recent-terror-attacks-against-west.html


Comments

  1. Anonymous7 December 2017 at 23:41

    Ha Gracillis,sometimes we actually don't know how much we have toll we try and wrote a list of complaints.thanks for a thought provoking post.keep the good work.

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